Montana Healing Connections

Dear Friends

Family relationships are one of the most stimulating in life. As well, they provide some of the greatest rewards and satisfaction. The dynamics of family are existential. Seemingly a never-ending cycle of ups and downs, highs and lows, sorrows and joy, pain and bliss.

I am writing about the vision I share of family life. That each of us must create our own life journey for ourselves. No one can do this for us in the end. It is up to us, based upon our choices to create a life of pain and difficulty, or love and joy. We alone create for our self.

We chose our family before we were born into this lifetime. We chose our mother and father, our siblings and our relationships. In addition we charted a basic outline of soul characteristics which we are to strive to, overcoming and balancing within the course of this lifetime..

To those not familiar with reincarnation and past lives this may seem a strange and even a foreign philosophy. I urge you to explore the possibilities and keep an open mind. Scientific research has proven this through exploration of the human psyche. It is common during a past life regression to clearly review and experience situations that happened hundreds of years ago. A frequent occurrence in my sessions is that in this lifetime a challenging parent-child relationship reveals a past life connection in which one or the other has been abandoned, forsaken, or cast off.

Each of us have lived many lives before, often in some relationships with the same souls that we share familial relations with during this lifetime. Depending upon the soul lessons to learn we may experience father-daughter, husband-wife, siblings, etc. The soul archetypes also factor into this vast mix of interaction. Next throw into the mix your association with in-laws, close friends, counselors, teachers, spiritual leaders and their affect upon our life journey and we’ve got an incredible, vast web of wisdom and choices before us.

Rarely does a class or study group go by, that someone discusses their family issues. Most often it’s a matter of “my spouse doesn’t believe like I do”, or “how can I show my adult children a better way?” We cannot make another person do what we want them to do. It is impossible to choose for them. (Of course unless it’s a very young child…even then I take issue with ‘making’ them do as we want them to.)

How can I help my spouse get well? You cannot. You can only assist with perhaps the availability of healthy foods, supplements, or suggestions of alternate treatment. Standing beside him/her during their chosen treatment’s brings support and encouragement. The other person is the only one that can choose to be healthy. We cannot, ever, create for them.

Others ask: “My children make poor choices in friends, habits and drugs. What can I do? You can give them unconditional love. Depending upon their age and whether they still reside in your home there are tools that you can use to give them options. Even then, you cannot make them choose what you would have them do. It is up to them. It is their journey.

“If you intend to be of assistance, your eye is not upon the trouble but upon the assistance, and that is quite different. When you are looking for a solution, you are feeling positive emotion— but when you are looking at a problem, you are feeling negative emotion.” --- Abraham

As you understand this new way of thinking, you may feel overwhelmed at times. It’s a real challenge to let go of what we think is best for others, especially our loved ones and those we care so deeply about. But as you begin to think of assistance rather than trouble, your emotions will shift and you will see solutions rather than problems. By your positive emotion you release the need to ‘fix it’ within you. When you shift your thoughts to loving assistance, you are adding to the solutions’ energy for that person.

This week when a situation arises in which you can clearly see the better choices, step back, take a deep breath and affirm that it’s not about you. The choices our loved ones make are their choices for their life, not yours. Loving them unconditionally will bring amazing shifts in relationships. So give it a give it a go and you’ll be surprised what happens.

Have a wonderful week, full of happiness and joy, living in the moment of your life.

Love, Light and Blessings,

Donna Rae